|I want to tell you a story.
When I was 8 years old I developed a brain tumor.
At the time the doctors on Grand Cayman (the island where I’m from) weren’t able to diagnose me properly.
They kept saying I had a virus, so my tumor continued to grow and by the time that it was finally discovered, the tumor had grown to the size of an oversized lemon.
The doctors predicted that I had an estimate of around 2 weeks left before it completely squeezed my brain out and killed me.
Can you imagine being my mother and getting that news?
But the story has a happy ending because today I am SO THANKFUL that I was only 8 years old at the time.
The beautiful thing about being a child is you aren’t worried about anything except for what you want and what you need in that moment (a trait that the doctors said helped my recovery because there is no added stress inflicted on the body).
Looking back, one of the most vivid memories that I recall about that experience is when I was being wheeled into the operating room to have one of my removal surgeries (I had to have a few because the tumor was too big to be removed in one surgery) and I remember clear as day, laying on a gurney being wheeled into the operating room relentlessly demanding that someone go and get me a bowl of Lucky Charms cereal.
The drugs kicked in mid-way through my outlandish demand session but when I woke up there was a doctor standing bed side with a fresh bowl of Lucky Charms cereal.
Looking back I applaud the younger me for exhibiting what would at this age now be considered obnoxious behavior.
The younger me knew what she wanted and spoke it when she wanted it – regardless of what was appropriate in the situation.
The lesson is this:
Life is incredibly short and to acknowledge and honor what we want for ourselves and then be bold enough to ask for it is a trait that we should never lose.
And this is a trait that I feel many females lose over time, when we get to be teenagers society gets its hands on us and it starts telling us who we should be and who we shouldn’t be.
So I want to ask you something that may sound really straight-forward-and -in-your-face:
Is there something that you are wanting for yourself that you are too afraid to ask for?
My tumor experience cemented in me to always ask for what I want – even if society thought it was radical or outside the norm. It is thinking like this that drove me to:
My mother still says that she doesn’t know where I got this gumption from.
But the truth is, I just learned early on to ask for what I wanted and that tomorrow isn’t promised so you might as well go for it today.
I am so grateful that my ability to ask for what I want was cemented through the experience of having a brain tumor at such an early age. Before society and expectations started to influence thinking and you start to feel bad for wanting what you want.
I truly believe that life reflects back to you what you have the courage to ask for – it’s really that simple.
You just need to acknowledge what you want for yourself (no matter how obnoxious you think it may sound to others) take action to get it and that will put you on a whole new course.
So what do you secretly want right now?
Ask for it.
Believe you’ll get it.
And then Receive it!