What does it really mean to be brave?
In 2016 I closed down my thriving corporate public relations agency and I put almost everything in storage and my dog and I, moved to London England.
And as a result of that move a lot of people have been coming up to me saying that I’m brave for packing up my bags and moving across the Atlantic Ocean over to England, where I knew no-one.
I’ve heard it from my friends, I’ve heard it from my family, I’ve even heard it from people that I’ve met for the first time.
So this got me thinking about what it means to be brave and how I got to the point where others looked at me as being a “brave woman.”
Experience in my opinion is one of the best teachers. I started my first company Fresh Image Public Relations in 2010 and I had absolutely no real clue about operating a business, but I dove in and figured it out as I went along.
Over the past few years that I have been on the entrepreneurial journey, one of the biggest takeaways that I’ve learned is that your business will only get as big as your life.
I will repeat that so it sinks in – your business will only get as big as your life. So if you are afraid to take risks and are always playing it safe it will be harder for both your life and your business to grow.
I didn’t start out being this “brave” woman, that everyone points out, it was a step by step evolution. And here are the top three things that I believe have helped to shape who I have become and how I run my life as well as my business:
1. I invest heavily in personal development whether that be by attending seminars/workshops, enrolling in online courses or working one on one with a coach or an advisor. You don’t know what you don’t know and we can’t see our own blind spots, so everyone of us needs outside guidance to help us fill the gaps that we can’t see for ourselves.
2. I guard the people I keep around me and I only spend time with and work with people who inspire me. This was probably the hardest step to work through because it meant leaving some friends and acquaintances behind, not because they were bad people but because their vision and my vision for myself were vastly different and the people you surround yourself with can either raise you up, keep you at the same level or bring you down. So it is really important to align yourself with people who inspire you If you want to move past where you are right now. When I started working on this step I would start small by following someone that inspired me on social media and I got on their email mailing list so that I could make note of what they were doing and how they were doing it. I would also decide who I wanted to meet in person and then figure out a way to get in the same room as them, whether that was volunteering my time for specific charity events so that I can get in the proximity or attending events that those persons hosted.
3. I work on my mindset daily. This one is a constant process because our minds are constantly influenced by so much. I hired a mindset coach and worked with her for a year to help me learn how to let go of my many “I can’t do that because __________ (fill in the blank with every excuse we use -I don’t have money/ I don’t have the time/ I don’t have the strength etc. etc.) working on your mindset will take time because you are working against years of mental conditioning – so be ready to put in time for this step to really be effective. An easy way that eased me into this step was by starting my mornings off by meditating for 10 minutes so I could silence noises in my head and see what it is that I really need to focus on. I also made it a point to listen to motivational speakers (many inspiring speakers have podcasts that you can download or channels on You Tube that you can subscribe to).
If you would like help getting out there and making that bravery work for your business, please feel free to connect with me and others like me in my “Blah to Inspired” Facebook Group. This is an open community with the goal of supporting professional women who are between the ages of 30-45 years old, who are looking to start their own businesses and want to connect and be inspired.