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Your Business Will Only Get as Big as Your Life: Three things that helped me Pack my Bags and Leave Everything Behind

What does it really mean to be brave?

In 2016 I closed down my thriving corporate public relations agency and I put almost everything in storage and my dog and I, moved to London England.

And as a result of that move a lot of people have been coming up to me saying that I’m brave for packing up my bags and moving across the Atlantic Ocean over to England, where I knew no-one.

I’ve heard it from my friends, I’ve heard it from my family, I’ve even heard it from people that I’ve met for the first time.

So this got me thinking about what it means to be brave and how I got to the point where others looked at me as being a “brave woman.”

Experience in my opinion is one of the best teachers. I started my first company Fresh Image Public Relations in 2010 and I had absolutely no real clue about operating a business, but I dove in and figured it out as I went along.

Over the past few years that I have been on the entrepreneurial journey, one of the biggest takeaways that I’ve learned is that your business will only get as big as your life.

I will repeat that so it sinks in – your business will only get as big as your life. So if you are afraid to take risks and are always playing it safe it will be harder for both your life and your business to grow.

I didn’t start out being this “brave” woman, that everyone points out, it was a step by step evolution. And here are the top three things that I believe have helped to shape who I have become and how I run my life as well as my business:

1. I invest heavily in personal development whether that be by attending seminars/workshops, enrolling in online courses or working one on one with a coach or an advisor. You don’t know what you don’t know and we can’t see our own blind spots, so everyone of us needs outside guidance to help us fill the gaps that we can’t see for ourselves.

2. I guard the people I keep around me and I only spend time with and work with people who inspire me. This was probably the hardest step to work through because it meant leaving some friends and acquaintances behind, not because they were bad people but because their vision and my vision for myself were vastly different and the people you surround yourself with can either raise you up, keep you at the same level or bring you down. So it is really important to align yourself with people who inspire you If you want to move past where you are right now. When I started working on this step I would start small by following someone that inspired me on social media and I got on their email mailing list so that I could make note of what they were doing and how they were doing it. I would also decide who I wanted to meet in person and then figure out a way to get in the same room as them, whether that was volunteering my time for specific charity events so that I can get in the proximity or attending events that those persons hosted.

3. I work on my mindset daily. This one is a constant process because our minds are constantly influenced by so much. I hired a mindset coach and worked with her for a year to help me learn how to let go of my many “I can’t do that because __________ (fill in the blank with every excuse we use -I don’t have money/ I don’t have the time/ I don’t have the strength etc. etc.) working on your mindset will take time because you are working against years of mental conditioning – so be ready to put in time for this step to really be effective. An easy way that eased me into this step was by starting my mornings off by meditating for 10 minutes so I could silence noises in my head and see what it is that I really need to focus on. I also made it a point to listen to motivational speakers (many inspiring speakers have podcasts that you can download or channels on You Tube that you can subscribe to).

If you would like help getting out there and making that bravery work for your business, please feel free to connect with me and others like me in my “Blah to Inspired” Facebook Group. This is an open community with the goal of supporting professional women who are between the ages of 30-45 years old, who are looking to start their own businesses and want to connect and be inspired.

Ask, Believe, Act and Receive

I want to tell you a story.

When I was 8 years old I developed a brain tumor.

At the time the doctors on Grand Cayman (the island where I’m from) weren’t able to diagnose me properly.

They kept saying I had a virus, so my tumor continued to grow and by the time that it was finally discovered, the tumor had grown to the size of an oversized lemon.

The doctors predicted that I had an estimate of around 2 weeks left before it completely squeezed my brain out and killed me.  

Can you imagine being my mother and getting that news?

But the story has a happy ending because today I am SO THANKFUL that I was only 8 years old at the time.

The beautiful thing about being a child is you aren’t worried about anything except for what you want and what you need in that moment (a trait that the doctors said helped my recovery because there is no added stress inflicted on the body).

Looking back, one of the most vivid memories that I recall about that experience is when I was being wheeled into the operating room to have one of my removal surgeries (I had to have a few because the tumor was too big to be removed in one surgery) and I remember clear as day, laying on a gurney being wheeled into the operating room relentlessly demanding that someone go and get me a bowl of Lucky Charms cereal.

The drugs kicked in mid-way through my outlandish demand session but when I woke up there was a doctor standing bed side with a fresh bowl of Lucky Charms cereal.

Looking back I applaud the younger me for exhibiting what would at this age now be considered obnoxious behavior.

The younger me knew what she wanted and spoke it when she wanted it – regardless of what was appropriate in the situation.

 

The lesson is this: 

 

Life is incredibly short and to acknowledge and honor what we want for ourselves and then be bold enough to ask for it is a trait that we should never lose.

 

And this is a trait that I feel many females lose over time, when we get to be teenagers society gets its hands on us and it starts telling us who we should be and who we shouldn’t be.

 

So I want to ask you something that may sound really straight-forward-and -in-your-face:

 

Is there something that you are wanting for yourself that you are too afraid to ask for?  

 

Also,
What makes you think you have TIME to keep pretending that you don’t want it?  

 

My tumor experience cemented in me to always ask for what I want – even  if society thought it was radical or outside the norm.  It is thinking like this that drove me to:

  •   Start my own business at age 26
  •   Grow that business on my own and go after and win major clients
  •    Learn to maneuver in the world of business and gender politics
  •    Hire and manage a team of individuals
  •    Travel the world on a whim – I’ve ended up in Dubai, Amsterdam and London just to name a few.
  •  Soak in as many sunrises and sunsets as I can

 

My mother still says that she doesn’t know where I got this gumption from.

 

But the truth is, I just learned early on to ask for what I wanted and that tomorrow isn’t promised so you might as well go for it today.

 

I am so grateful that my ability to ask for what I want was cemented through the experience of having a brain tumor at such an early age. Before society and expectations started to influence thinking and you start to feel bad for wanting what you want.

 

 

I truly believe that life reflects back to you what you have the courage to ask for – it’s really that simple.

 

 

You just need to acknowledge what you want for yourself (no matter how obnoxious you think it may sound to others) take action to get it and that will put you on a whole new course.

 

 

So what do you secretly want right now?

 

Ask for it.

Believe you’ll get it.

Take Action.

And then Receive it!

Sam’s Five Agreements for Success

  1. Create your own opportunities – look in the mirror it starts with the reflection staring back at you.
  2. Your mind is your greatest weapon – how you think is everything! Think success, not failure.
  3. Be impeccable with your word. If you say you’re going to do something, do it.
  4. Commit to producing excellence, even when you don’t feel like itand give it 100%.
  5. A warm smile and a genuine attitude are the greatest attributes.